Be confident in everything you do.
You may look in the mirror and pick out every flaw about yourself, and reinforce every insecurity you have. You may think you’re not smart enough to earn a degree. You may think you’re not strong enough to fight the battles that are going on in your life. You might think that your dreams are just delusions of grandeur, and in return, you are willing to settle. Maybe you already decided to give up. The problem is – you have always focused on the things you have done wrong, and never emphasized the things you have done right. We all make mistakes. Stop selling yourself short.
Stop scrolling through social media endlessly and comparing your life to others. First off, hardly anybody posts embarassing things or their humility on the internet. So the more you scroll, the more you see people “doing better than you.” Or at least, that is what they are portraying. They aren’t portraying all of the embarassment, mistakes, and failure that they have endured in their lives. All you see is the good side and and what people have accomplished, which only reinforces what you consider to be your own failure. Don’t believe the hype, nobody is perfect.
You want humility? I’ll give you a piece of mine.
When I first began working in the operating room with my oral surgeon as a medical assistant, everybody in the hospital assumed I was a doctor. At first, I was ecstacic that everybody would think that I hold myself with the confidence and professionalism of a doctor. After some time though, it began to eat away at me. I began to feel like I wasn’t living up to my potential or my peer’s expectations. When the anesthesiologist asked me where I went to medical school, I laughed and pointed to my badge. He than asked if I was from the area and what highschool I graduated from. I told him the truth. I dropped out of highschool and informed him that I later went and received my GED before attending a program at Porter and Chester. He laughed a little and said “good for you.” He never gave me the time of day again after that. I felt like I was at the bottom of the totem pole, and that’s because I was. I was in the middle of an operating room without any idea how to properly scrub in and get dressed while nurses and doctors rushed around me and basically pushed me out of their way. (I don’t blame them.) It was humiliating. Why? Because I felt like a fish out of water. I felt like I could do more, but never applied the discipline and consistency to my life to get more. At that point, my confidence plummeted – and I settled. I accepted my life for what it was and lied to myself by saying “you could never pass nursing school, let alone get your doctorate.” So I went home, laid down in my sorrow, and repeated the cycle for about two years.
One day, something hit me. A spark of motivation. A realization that I’m willing to do whatever it takes to succeed. I no longer fear embarrassment or failure, I only fear not trying. You’re going to fail at something, but what you do with that failure is what will define your character. This applies to all aspects in life. Not everybody in this world is going to believe in you. Maybe nobody will believe in you. It doesn’t matter, as long as you believe in yourself. With that being said, I am pursuing my degree – and I’m not doing it to prove anybody wrong. I’m doing it because I have things to prove to myself. It’s important to self reflect on your daily goals and make sure whatever you’re doing is for you. You are the only person that matters in the end. Many people will come and go. You have to live with yourself forever.
A friend of mine recently confided in me about a woman he goes to school with. He told me that she is absolutely beautiful, but he can’t work up the courage to talk to her. “Why?” I asked. He replied, “She’s out of my league.”
This is a message to my friend and the rest of the world as well. Nobody is “out of your league.” I don’t care what they look like, what they have accomplished, or how much money they make. Stop selling yourself short. Stop defining yourself under social expectations that are extremely distorted. You are no lesser and no greater than any other human being. To my friend I ask: What is the worst possible outcome of asking this woman out on a date? She says no? That’s not something you’re going to be thinking about one day when you’re on your death bed. Instead, you’ll be full of regret about all the opportunities you could have potentially had. If only you tried.
One day we are all going to grow old, and we will reminisce about being young kids; Staring endlessly down a long and mysterious open road, wondering what awaits us at the end. You’ll never know what awaits you at the finish line if you’re too afraid to make the trip.
So take a risk.
While you travel down this road towards your dreams, many people will try to shoot you down. That is only because they failed their own dreams and decided to settle rather than persevere. You’re one of two things in life. A quitter, or a go getter.
Which one are you?
Proceed with Confidence